What exactly is behaviour?
Behaviour is the way we react. Behaviour may also mean conduct - that is, how a
person’s actions fit society’s idea of right and wrong.
What can affect Behaviour in a child?
- Heredity
- Environment
- Learning Conditioning
- Positive reinforcements
Behaviour grows !
Behaviour has patterns and shape just as the physical structure. Just as the body grows
in a reasonably patterned manner, so also does the behaviour.
Like the physical growth, behaviour too is strongly influenced by the home and other
surroundings in which the child grows up. The strongest and the longest environment to
affect the child are the parents. Most parents consider it their responsibility as well
the privilege to provide the best possible environment conducive to child’s physical
growth. It should be ditto for behaviour growth too!
The more a parent knows about the normal changes that take place in a child’s
behaviour when he grows up, the more successful they can be in guiding the child along the
complicated path leading to maturity.
Mother Child relationship
Mothers should know
- What to expect?
- Different types of personalities & how they behave
- Scolding, beating and constant reprimanding does not work &
- Constant supervision is not possible
A mother must know about the behaviours, which commonly characterize each different age
level, so that she can do a better job in dealing with the child.
Also the problems she will face are not all unpredictable, they too follow a set pattern.
Example:
5 yr old is loving, docile and obedient in his relation with the mother
51/2-6 yr tends to thrust out and resist her in his effort to be a
big boy
7 yr may feel she is mean & cruel
The adolescent, if he is to grow up into a mature capable adult, must learn to think
and act for himself; must grow beyond the places where he is completely guided by what
"Mummy says…"
Father Child relationship
Father is supposed to be a vital factor in the baby’s development. Not many, of
course realize/accept this. Fathers should find time to get involved in bringing up
children and not merely to provide the funds and an occasional hug or pat!
Child needs a Role Model and who better than Father.
What are the different types of behavioural disorders in chidren?
A. Developmental Problems
- Poor School Performance
- School refusal (school phobia)
B. Disruptive Behaviour Problems
- Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorders (ADHD)
- Conduct disorders
C. Emotional Disorders
- Eating disorders - anorexia nervosa / bulimia nervosa obesity / pica
- Phobic disorders
- Depressive disorders
- Overanxious disorders
- Conversion disorders
D. Behaviour c physical Manifestations
E. Chronic illness
- Shock & disbelief
- Protest & Anguish
- Restitution
F. Separation experiences
- Death of a parent, sibling or other significant person
- Hospitalization
- Divorce
- Working Parents
A study of over 100 Behavioural disorders in children showed the following reactions of
parents very commonly lead to behavioural disorders.
| Rejection |
A child who feels rejected
may react by
- Feelings of insecurity & isolation.
- Attention seeking, negativistic.
- Unable to give and receive affection |
| Overprotection-Domination |
In today’s time of
precious child and 1-2 child families norms, overprotection is the commonest emotion. Most
parents also tend to mould the child just the way they are (domination). Exposure to
these may manifest as Submission, inadequacy, lack of initiative, tendency to passive
dependency in relation with others |
| Overindulgence |
‘Jo mangoge,
Milega’
Parents feel they earn for the child. They all want to provide what they themselves never
got. The feeling of NOT depriving the child leads to overindulgence which makes the child
Selfish, demanding, with inability to tolerate frustration. Rebellious to authority,
excessive need of attention, lack of responsibility |
| Perfectionism-unrealistic
ambitions for child |
Child internalizes parents
unrealistic standards. Inevitable failure leads to continual frustration, guilt and
self-devaluation |
| Faulty discipline |
Overpermissiveness,
associated with insecurity, antisocial aggressiveness. Severe discipline typically leads
to excessive condemnation of self for socially disapproved behaviour, anxiety over
aggressive behaviour. Inconsistent discipline commonly results in lack of stable values
for guiding behaviour with tendency to inconsistency and vacillation in meeting problems. |
| Sibling rivalry |
Direct or indirect
hostility, insecurity, lack of self confidence, regression |
| Marital discord and broken
homes |
Anxiety, tension,
insecurity, lack of secure home base, tendency to evaluate world as a dangerous and
insecure place. Conflicting loyalties, lack of adequate model for proper ego development |
| Faulty parental models |
Internalization of
unethical and socially undesirable value attitudes which frequently lead to difficulties
with law |
| Contradictory demands |
Lack of integrated frame of
reference; confusion and self devaluation |
