DISCIPLINE - TO
HIT Or NOT TO HIT?
Physically punishing a child is a controversial topic even
Those against physical punishment will forward several good arguments for not using it
They believe, and it is true also, that we can raise children to be agreeable
and productive adults without ever hitting them. There are several alternatives to beating
Hitting them carries the risk of releasing the pent-up anger that most of the parents carry
of course). This anger generally finds an outlet in child beating and may end in child
abuse. Most parents who
resort to beating as a last resort (as it definitely "breaks a child's will" find later in
life that they
had underestimated the child's determination. Worse still, physical punishment teaches a
child to hit out
Other forms of discipline are more constructive, leaving a child
with some sense of guilt that contributes to the formation of a conscience.
If you still feel the need to
occasionally hit your child, please be careful that you are not overdoing it. Even though
hitting a child is result of an impulse, you must remember what should NOT be done while
These guidelines will definitely help.
Hit only on the buttocks, legs or hands. Hitting a child on
the face is demeaning as well as dangerous as a hard hit on the cheek/ear may lead to
a perforated ear drum.
Hit only with an open hand through clothing. If you are
using an object other than your hand, it may be difficult to judge how hard you are
hitting. Belts and serving spoons should never be used. Mothers should be careful in
the kitchen; many a children are living with burn marks on the face!
Hit only once! After all you are trying to change
behaviour. Hitting more than once is only relieving your anger and not teaching your
child anything additional.
After the age of 5 to 6 years (school going) use
negotiation and discussion to resolve most differences. Never hit children less than
1 year of age.
Never hit your child when YOU ARE out of control. Remember
hitting him is for disciplining and not to punish. If you can't control your rage,
you need help more than your child.
Discipline is nothing but self-control and aggressive
children need to be taught that. Don't use physical punishment for aggressive
behaviour like biting, hitting or kicking. Physical punishment under such
circumstances teaches a child that it is all right for a bigger person to strike a
smaller person. They respond best to isolation as it gives them an opportunity to
think about the pain they have caused.
Isolating a child in a corner or bedroom for a time-out is
much more civilized and effective. Learn how to use such forms of discipline.
Some parents have a habit of vigorously shaking children.
Avoid it as it carries a serious risk of causing blood clots on the brain.(subdural
Don't use physical punishment more often as it will be less
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